女性婚外情慾歷程之研究

學年度:91
學期:2
校院:東吳大學
系所:社會學系碩士班
論文名稱(中):女性婚外情慾歷程之研究
論文名稱(英):Study on the process of married women' s sexuality in extramarital affairs
學位類別:碩士
語文別:chi
學號:89315009
頁數:138
研究生姓名(中):彭莉惠
研究生姓名(英):Peng, Li -Hui
指導教授姓名(中):張家銘
指導教授姓名(英):Chang, Chia- Ming
關鍵字(中):女性情慾、外遇、道德生涯、污名、女性主義、高夫曼
關鍵字(英):Female sexuality, extramarital affairs, moral career, stigma, feminism, Goffman

 


中文提要:

        奠基既有學術脈絡的檢視,本研究關注:女性婚外情慾的歷程、空間特性與道德生涯。以 Cooley 的鏡我說(looking-glass self)、Goffman的印象整飾(impression management)、污名(stigma)、道德生涯(moral career)概念與奧菊•羅德(Audre Lorde)的情慾力量觀作為本研究的理論觀點。本研究深度訪談七位受訪者發現:一、婚外歷程充滿按耐、壓抑、關係不穩定、估量社會後果、擬似愛情「遊戲」的性格;二、一般對婚外情採取婚姻「問題」的分析觀點,在本研究無法得到完全的證實;三、婚外女性的情慾位置,看似被動,實際體現主動參予的共謀位置;四、著重社會污名低曝光的婚外情慾空間;五、「時間」具有強烈的社會性格,行動者藉順從社會時間與慎選社會空間,進行婚外關係的交往;六、婚外身分不見得皆須掩飾,掩飾與否,往往涉及行動者對某個空間的評估與判斷;七、不同空間場所與親密關係的程度對行動者而言,有不同的污名感(feeling of stigma);八、不被揭發的婚外情慾污名,其意義主要在於,行動者以社會對此身分的污名想像、指認,作為自我詮釋、行動參照的來源,同時,亦成為角色扮演、污名掩飾的考量;九、親族支持網絡所伴隨的親情、恩情、孝心、與角色的權利義務相互搓揉,成為婚外女性整飾污名身分的主要考量。相較男性外遇研究,女性外遇者較缺乏實體空間上的支持網絡;十、婚外女性學習扮演兩種不同的身分角色,即兼顧妻子與情人的角色。在情人與丈夫面前同時是女性的「前台」(front stage)也是其「後台」(back stage)。且一旦女性對婚外情慾關係的處理足以掌握,女性易將情婦角色扮演的學習挪用到夫妻關係的互動上;十一、Audre Lord的女性情慾力量觀,在本研究得到證實;十二、本研究顯示婚外女性除了彰顯情慾力量外,亦同時顯現無力、痛苦、恐懼、矛盾。換言之,女性在情慾歷程同時體現無力與培力(empowerment)的相互作用,絕非單一、僵化的簡單面貌。

     

英文提要:

      This study focuses on the sexuality process of married women in their love affairs, the characteristic of the space and the moral career, based on the academic researches in existence. “Looking-glass self” from Cooley, “Impression management” from Goffman, the concept of stigma and moral career, and “the Power of the Erotic” from Audre Lorde are the theoretical viewpoints supporting this study. The following conclusions came after thorough interviews with seven interviewees. First, the process of love affairs feathers the characteristics of restrained passion, suppressed feelings, unstable relationship, evaluation of social consequences, and “quasi-love gambling”. Second, those problem-oriented analytic viewpoints in common researches concerning love affairs could not be fully testified in this study. Third, women involving love affairs outside marriages actually enjoy “a position of proactive accomplice”, even though they look ostensibly passive. Fourth, the space of the erotic in love affairs shows a low-profile tendency so as to avoid the stigma imposed by the society. Fifth, “time” feathers strong social character. The actors proceed outside marital relationships by following the “social time” and cautiously choosing proper social environment. Sixth, the truth of love affairs does not necessarily need to be covered up—it depends on how the actor evaluates and judges a certain environment around her. Seventh, different places and phases in the relationships bear various feelings of stigma as far as the actor is concerned. Eighth, the meaning of the stigma that hasn’t been revealed is: the actor takes the “stigma imagination and indication” created by the society as her standards while making self-interpretation and taking action. Meanwhile, the stigma is also taken into account in role-playing and stigma veiling. Ninth, the combination of the family-supportive network together with loving-kindness, emotion among family members, filial piety and the obligation of role-playing turn into the priority concern for married women to cover up their love affairs. Compared with those married male counterparts in love affairs, the female lack of supportive network from substantial environment. Tenth, women involving love affairs learn to play two different roles-wife and lover. It’s both first stage and back stage for women being in front of husband and lover. Once the women get an upper hand dealing with the relationships, they tend to practice the role of mistresses they learned to the interactions with their husbands. Eleventh, “the Power of the Erotic” from Audre Lorde has been testified in this study. Twelfth, this study not only shows the power of the erotic among married women with love affairs, but also represents their pain , fear, ambivalence and weakness toward the relationship. In other words, weakness and empowerment interact in the women' s erotic process. It' s definitely not a one-dimension problem.